For those who suffer from dementia, visitors can add a rich and an enjoyable part of their day. As a visitor, it is important to understand the challenges that your loved one may be experiencing with memory loss. Follow these five tips from Governor’s Glen for making your visit an enjoyable occasion.

1. Consult with Caregivers

Whether the caregiver is a family member or a trained professional, ask them for information that will help make the most pleasant visit possible. People affected by dementia may be upset by loud noises, rattled with too many visitors in their room, or startled by the sudden approach of a person they cannot recognize immediately. Whenever possible, have the caregiver introduce you to ease your transition into the room and maintain the person’s dignity and respect.

2. Assist Them with a Favorite Activity

People affected by dementia are strongly encouraged to continue with the activities that they enjoy. To make a visit especially enjoyable, offer to assist your loved one with letter writing, scrapbooking or walking out by the garden. Ensure that these activities are safe and do not exceed the amount of time that your loved one can endure physically or emotionally tolerate. Often, only a few minutes of pleasurable activities can brighten a person’s mood and make them smile.

3. Understanding Aggression and Anger Outbursts

For those who suffer with memory loss, the part of the brain that “filters” behavior may become less effective and behavioral changes can result. If your loved one suddenly begins to show signs of agitation, they may be experiencing a confusion that causes them intense anxiety and fear. If you should experience this behavior during a visit, stay calm and keep the person safe. Try to refocus their attention to another activity or task, and speak to them in soft and reassuring tones.

4. Find out the Best Time to Visit

People with memory loss are usually the most comfortable when their daily routines remain the same and they know what to expect. Refrain from visiting during mealtime, their personal care schedule or during their favorite TV program. Often, your loved one may be more alert and receptive to your company in the early part of the day.

5. Be Respectful and do not Argue

People with memory problems often do not remember names or events. Do not attempt to correct them or help them to tell the story. By challenging their memory, you may escalate their confusion and worsen their anxiety.

Visiting a person with memory challenges can be a pleasant experience that enriches the life of your loved one. With simple tips and a little extra effort, you can enjoy the company of the ones you love.